THESE ARE THE ACTUAL RULES.
The sponsor must be a confirmed, practicing Catholic who attends Mass
The sponsor must be older than 18 (the Bishop has set this requirement)
The sponsor can’t be your parent (but CAN be a sibling or godparent)
As far as possible the person to be confirmed is to have a sponsor. The sponsor’s function is to take care that the person confirmed behaves as a true witness of Christ and faithfully fulfills the duties inherent in this sacrament.
§1 A person who would undertake the office of sponsor must fulfill the conditions mentioned in can. 874 which reads:
§1 To be admitted to undertake the office of sponsor, a person must:
1. be appointed by the candidate for baptism, or by the parents or whoever stands in their place, or failing these, by the parish priest or the minister; to be appointed the person must be suitable for this role and have the intention of fulfilling it;
2. be not less than sixteen years of age, unless a different age has been stipulated by the diocesan Bishop, or unless the parish priest or the minister considers that there is a just reason for an exception to be made;
3. be a catholic who has been confirmed and has received the blessed Eucharist, and who lives a life of faith which befits the role to be undertaken;
4. not labor under a canonical penalty, whether imposed or declared;
5. not be either the father or the mother of the person to be baptized.
§2 A baptized person who belongs to a non-Catholic ecclesial community may be admitted only in company with a catholic sponsor, and then simply as a witness to the baptism.
§2 It is desirable that the sponsor chosen be the one who undertook this role at baptism.
THIS IS HELPFUL ADVICE.
Your sponsor should live in town; the hour requirements aren’t enormous, but they’re significant enough that it will be tricky to make this work with your favorite aunt who lives in Seattle. I’m not saying rule out your favorite aunt in Seattle, I’m saying give it some serious thought before you ask her. If you choose someone who cannot be present at all the mandatory events, you are responsible for finding your own proxy. (Your parents are fine for this.)
Your sponsor should be an adult—preferably someone over 21. Part of the selection process is looking for someone who is a good role model for you; someone with a lot of life experience is going to be more helpful in the long run.
You should pick someone you find really easy to talk to and someone who you feel knows and understands you pretty well; part of the process is picking someone who can continue to be in a close relationship with you even after Confirmation is over.
HERE’S WHAT THEY DO.
The role of the Confirmation Sponsor is to support you in your journey of faith and to stand up with you to say you are ready to receive the Sacrament. They do this by participating in your Confirmation Journey and helping to prepare you. They also do this in a literal way during the Rite of Confirmation by presenting you to the Bishop and saying, “This person is ready to be confirmed.” They should: Attend as many Journey events with you as possible. If they can not a parent must attend in their place.
Contact their teen before and after each session to follow up and discuss that session’s topic.
WHO SHOULD I PICK?! I’M TOTALLY STUCK!
Ask any Catholic how they picked their own sponsor: the kids from last year’s Confirmation class, friends from school that have been confirmed already, parish staff or volunteers at St. Martha, etc. Ask your parents how they picked your
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